10 Reasons I Am Thankful For My Children

IMG_0992I have two beautiful boys, 11 and 8 who keep me busier than I ever thought I could be. With the Thanksgiving break upon us (I swear we never had this much vacation when I was in school) I thought I would reflect on the various reasons I am thankful to have them:

1. Thanks to my children, I am developing my short order cook skills. No one likes the same thing, so I have become very good at cooking three separate meals at the same time.

2. Thanks to these two boys, I have become an expert in laundry. I am so thankful that they wear approximately 3 outfits every single day and put everything on the floor. That way I can find it when I need to do laundry (which is every day).

3. I am thankful that my 11-year old knows more than I do and he isn’t even a teenager yet. This morning he walked into the kitchen and this is the first thing that came out of his mouth:

“Did you know that the tectonic plates move at the same rate our fingernails grow, 8 cm per year?” 

I am serious, that is what he said. I don’t even know if that is true and had to look up the spelling of ‘tectonic’.

4. They keep me in a routine. If I didn’t have to say 10 times every morning and night “BRUSH YOUR TEETH”, I might forget myself.

5. They keep my negotiating skills sharp. While I am not currently working as a lawyer, I negotiate more with them than ANYONE else I have ever had to deal with.

  • Take three more bites. Take one more bite.
  • Ok, fine, you can go to bed smelly but you have to shower in the morning.
  • No, you can’t have 5 Rice Crispie Treats. You may have one. If you are still hungry, you have to have something healthy.
  • No, you may not buy a toy at Target, that is not why we are here. Fine, you can get some candy on the way out.
  • No, you can’t have pizza for all of your meals today, but you may have it for one meal, you pick.
  • You may each occupy the video game machine for 30 minutes. I will set a timer and when it goes off, you guys have to switch.
  • It is now getting cold out, you may not wear shorts and a sleeveless shirt to school. One half of you has to be covered. You pick ~ pants or a long sleeved shirt.
  • Eat 5 more bites of your dinner and you can be done. 45 minutes later…fiiiinnneee, have 3 bites.

6. I am thankful that they are still getting up in the middle of the night. It keeps me sharp. While the boys normally sleep through the night, every once in a while, they like to remind me what it is like to wake up and have to act immediately without thinking or actually waking up.

7. I get to see what it is like to be a bus driver. Oh wait, I am a parent. Then why do I spend most of my time transporting them all over the county?

8. I am super thankful they begged me for months to get this dog because they take such great care of her. (that was a joke, they spend approximately 30 seconds with her each day).

9. It is awesome to see them getting bigger and become more grown up. Now, when they get into an argument, there is always a physical altercation that ends with one child injured.

10. I love how inexpensive it is to have kids in sports. At the beginning of the soccer and football season, I spent over $200 in the athletic store buying crap for sports. That is a new record.

In case you didn’t notice, I am letting off a little steam this week. Note to self: lobby to have the kids in school more often and/or plan fabulous vacation for next break.

If I am being truthful (and not trying to be funny), I love these boys more than anything in the whole world. It is truly like seeing your heart walking outside your body every single day. I would do anything for these boys and feel blessed that they are mine. I really am a thankful (and tired) Proud Working Mom!

9 Reasons I Am Thankful To Be a Working Mother


I have been working for a long time, but when I became a mom, just like you, I transformed from working woman to working mother. Everything changed: values, priorities, and the time available for both.

Proud Working Mom is dedicated to living this dual path without guilt and providing inspiration, empowerment, and information. It’s also an honest and sometimes twisted look at our reality.

But that’s what makes it cool.

This time of year I find myself thinking of all the things that I am thankful for. Number one on that list is my family. Following that, I could come up with an infinite number of reasons why I am thankful to be a mother. This post is different because it  highlights the reasons I am thankful to be a working mother.

At Proud Working Mom, we believe that working motherhood is a good thing for ourselves and our family. Here are 9 reasons why I am thankful:


Trick-or-Treating with a Peanut Allergy IS Scary!


As the mother of a child with a peanut allergy, there is nothing scarier than trick-or-treating on Halloween night! My son is now seven and still severely allergic to peanuts. As he gets older, I tend to let my guard down a bit more. He is old enough to ask if something has nuts in it and as a certified sugar junkie, he knows which popular candies contain (or may contain) nuts. Still, the endless possibilities of what could go wrong dance in my head. He could open up a Snicker’s Bar on accident because it will be dark out, and eat that. He could somehow come in contact with a kid that has just eaten a Reece’s Peanut Butter Cup and somehow put his hand in his mouth. He could sneak a piece of unknown candy into his mouth that has nuts. While going through his candy at the end of the night like a detective combing through a crime scene, what if I miss a piece that has nuts in it? This internal dialogue never stops for parents who have a child with a life threatening food allergy.

We were just at the allergists’ office confirming, for the fifth year in a row, that Max is still allergic to peanuts. (you think?!?)


While in the office, I grabbed a flyer that listed some basic Halloween safety tips. Whether you have a child with this allergy or you will be handing out copious amounts of candy to some monsters in your neighborhood, here are a few guidelines courtesy of Colorado Allergy & Asthma Centers:

1. Have your trick-or-treater eat dinner before going out on Halloween night so that she is not tempted by hunger to eat a treat.

2. Make sure your child carries his/her medicines while trick-or-treating, in case of a reaction.

3. Accompany your child trick-or-treating, or, if he or she is old enough to go without an adult, have her go with friends who know about his or her food allergy.

4. If your child does collect candy on Halloween, have something ready to trade for the candy she can’t eat.

5. Consider passing out nonfood items such as Halloween stickers or small toys to trick-or-treaters to promote food allergy awareness.

Thanks for taking the time to read this very important information. I wish everyone a happy and SAFE Halloween!

Employment Discrimination and Working Mothers – What Nobody Talks About


At Proud Working Mom, I am in charge of content. I keep an active list of things I want to write about. One of the things that has been on my mind for a long time is employment discrimination and how it affects working moms. It is easy to think that no one is writing or talking about it because it doesn’t exist. This is not the case. It isn’t discussed because it only makes a bad situation worse.

I know four women who have all been victims of some form of employment discrimination during their careers. Yes, four professional women who have been fired or ‘let go’ (that is the nicer way to say it, so everyone feels comfortable) specifically because they were pregnant.

You can’t fire a pregnant woman because she is pregnant. When it is happening, no one ever says “you are being let go because you are pregnant and we don’t like it” or “we are firing you because you are pregnant and it is inconvenient” but it is exactly what’s happening.

Today, I want to get this topic out in the open.

When I was a young attorney, I had a friend who was a pediatric doctor.  She had been ‘let go’ from her job while she was pregnant. I saw her at a party and she told me in a defeated tone “What am I going to do, I have to work in this town.  I’ll just look for another job once the baby comes.”  After the initial outrage wore off, her words kept repeating in my head. I guess I thought that professionals were immune from this type of treatment. I could not have been further from the truth.

A few years later, a fellow attorney friend of mine had almost the exact same experience. She became pregnant and shortly after announcing it, her colleagues, all male attorneys, started treating her differently. She was assigned a very heavy work load and given more to do than the majority of her peers. Her male counterparts were blatant in how rude they were to her and made it clear that she was not welcome. It was as if they were making it so bad that she would have no choice but to quit. At seven months pregnant, when she was shown the door for ‘poor performance’, she attempted to sue the firm. She hired an employment lawyer and sued but had to relive the trauma every day, all while trying to take care of her new baby. She was strong, but it was painful. She ultimately gave up. The cruel irony of the situation is that when you are discriminated against while pregnant, you are in the worst possible position to fight back.

I learned this up close and personal when I was pregnant with my second child. I was four months into the pregnancy and had it all – morning sickness, trials, appellate arguments, all at the same time. My supervisor had been paying close attention to me and I was under the mistaken impression that he cared about the health of me and my unborn child. Nope. He had been observing my performance because there were ‘concerns’. Interestingly, these concerns coincided with a hiring freeze and the fact that I would be out on maternity leave for a few months prohibited them from filling my position (especially if I decided not to come back to work). Ultimately, I resigned and they chalked it up to ‘performance issues’ despite a perfectly clean employment record. I was furious. I was sad. I was exhausted. My husband encouraged me to see a lawyer about this blatant form of discrimination but I couldn’t bring myself to talk about it. My friend’s words rang in my ears “I have to work in this town”. If I was ever going to go back to work, this kind of bad press in a small town could be the death of my career. So I did what I believe lots of women do, I said nothing and left a job that I loved with my tail between my legs. It took me a long time to get over this. I relived it every day, I had bad dreams about it, I was angry, and I had a family to take care of (an infant and a 3-year-old). It made me doubt myself and my abilities as a lawyer.

After about two years, I finally picked myself up, dusted myself off, and went back to work. That is when I met another woman, an executive, who had just been fired from her job. She was also fired right after she had her baby. Her experience was now a familiar tale. After finding out she was pregnant, her boss, the president of the company, became almost impossible to please. Ultimately, he told her that if she wanted to continue working at the company, she would have to move her entire family to another city. Afterwards, my friend found out that they had already hired another person to replace her, so the unreasonable request wasn’t even an option. Outrageous, right? You are thinking that you would’ve sued that company, right? She didn’t do anything. Her reasons for dropping it were the same as everyone else’s.

These are just the stories of people I know. Imagine how many other working moms are out there, being discriminated against, who are afraid to share their story. It has taken me some time to be able to share this and my hope is that it will help another working mother in a similar situation. If this is happening to you, I want you to know that you are not alone and my advice is to FIGHT BACK.


The Top Myths (or Lies) About Working Moms


I am going to just say it out loud and proud:  I LOVE being a working mom.

I am just a regular working mom. I’m not trying to have it all, or buy it all, or climb the corporate ladder. I’m just trying to take care of my family and have a job that I can be proud of while being a mom.

Working moms aren’t fully understood. There are lots of rumors floating out there about working moms so today, I am going to address a few of the more popular myths (or lies) that exist about working moms.

1. We are not good parents. MYTH. There are some purported experts that say you cannot have a successful career and a successful home life at the same time. (Yes, these are people from this century). I guess the first question I would ask these “experts” is how they are defining success? To me, success is found in the fact that you can show up to work, do the job assigned, help run your household, and raise your kids with your partner. Maybe we are not perfect parents, but we are great parents. In fact, I know LOTS of working mothers that do it all and do it well!

2. We have “problem” children. MYTH. Why do kids of working mothers get a bad rap? As a mother who has both worked and stayed home (and coached a soccer team full of kids for the past three years), I have personally experienced a wide range of children and backgrounds. Kids are kids. Some are difficult and some are not. Jumping to the conclusion that kids are problematic because their mother is working is insane. In fact, I would argue the opposite. Sending my kids to daycare was a great opportunity for them to socialize with other kids, stay engaged and learn during the day while having fun.

3. We let someone else raise our children. MYTH.  This is just silly. We are still the ones providing the love, the care, and even the 3 a.m. wake up calls.  Mom and Dad are doing most of the heavy lifting with help from others like day care providers and teachers. It is a team effort.

4We all live “the good life”. MYTH. Sorry, just not true. We don’t have everything we want and we don’t do whatever we want. No one has it all. When we decide to work, it is not without sacrifice. Working mothers are faced with specific challenges, just like any other mom. By deciding to work, a working mother has taken on the challenge of being able to have a career AND a family. So I say to those Proud Working Moms, BRAVO.

5. We only work for money. MYTH. There are many reasons why we work: For finances, for sanity, for purpose, and because we genuinely like it!

These myths are all stupid, right? Did I leave any out? Feel free to add in any that I missed. We are all trying to accomplish the same thing: To become Proud Working Moms. So lets ALL start doing just that!

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