I am going to just say it out loud and proud: I LOVE being a working mom.
I am just a regular working mom. I’m not trying to have it all, or buy it all, or climb the corporate ladder. I’m just trying to take care of my family and have a job that I can be proud of while being a mom.
Working moms aren’t fully understood. There are lots of rumors floating out there about working moms so today, I am going to address a few of the more popular myths (or lies) that exist about working moms.
1. We are not good parents. MYTH. There are some purported experts that say you cannot have a successful career and a successful home life at the same time. (Yes, these are people from this century). I guess the first question I would ask these “experts” is how they are defining success? To me, success is found in the fact that you can show up to work, do the job assigned, help run your household, and raise your kids with your partner. Maybe we are not perfect parents, but we are great parents. In fact, I know LOTS of working mothers that do it all and do it well!
2. We have “problem” children. MYTH. Why do kids of working mothers get a bad rap? As a mother who has both worked and stayed home (and coached a soccer team full of kids for the past three years), I have personally experienced a wide range of children and backgrounds. Kids are kids. Some are difficult and some are not. Jumping to the conclusion that kids are problematic because their mother is working is insane. In fact, I would argue the opposite. Sending my kids to daycare was a great opportunity for them to socialize with other kids, stay engaged and learn during the day while having fun.
3. We let someone else raise our children. MYTH. This is just silly. We are still the ones providing the love, the care, and even the 3 a.m. wake up calls. Mom and Dad are doing most of the heavy lifting with help from others like day care providers and teachers. It is a team effort.
4. We all live “the good life”. MYTH. Sorry, just not true. We don’t have everything we want and we don’t do whatever we want. No one has it all. When we decide to work, it is not without sacrifice. Working mothers are faced with specific challenges, just like any other mom. By deciding to work, a working mother has taken on the challenge of being able to have a career AND a family. So I say to those Proud Working Moms, BRAVO.
5. We only work for money. MYTH. There are many reasons why we work: For finances, for sanity, for purpose, and because we genuinely like it!
These myths are all stupid, right? Did I leave any out? Feel free to add in any that I missed. We are all trying to accomplish the same thing: To become Proud Working Moms. So lets ALL start doing just that!